“Why do I have to accept anything I don’t like” some of you may ask.
“You don’t!” would be my response, that would be called “resignation’. However, acceptance needs to happen in order to move on and let it go – whatever it might be – acceptance that it is has happened and that it is having the effect it is having”.
Many of us avoid considering this because a part of us fears it is our fault and, by looking at it, we will have to take all the blame and the guilt would be too much. On the contrary, by shining a little bit of light on how we are feeling, or reacting, or what we are believing, rather then keeping it hidden away in the recesses of our mind, we can come to a different understanding.
Emotion always over rules logic – always! Acceptance is the starting point for releasing the emotion you don’t want to feel. With true acceptance of the emotion you are feeling and the situation you are in, comes the opportunity to release the emotion, whatever the cause. With the release of the emotion, comes clarity. With clarity comes new perspectives – a different way of thinking about the situation, a plan of action based in logic as opposed to emotion, you may understand that it’s not personal, you may be able to forgive yourself or others. Your logical mind is able to kick in again. The result is always the allowing in of emotions you do want to feel.
This in itself creates openings – friendships, new business opportunities, creativity, relaxation and peace, understanding and compassion. This all leads to a different way of responding instead of hitting the same old ‘react’ button. Next time something reminds your unconscious mind of a difficult time and your body gets ready to brace itself, (tension in the stomach, tightness around the shoulders or back, tears, lump in the throat, palpitations, shortness of breath – or whatever way your fear shows itself), your unconscious has another experience.
Even though this is happening and I feel like this, I accept myself and all of these feelings.
Using EFT allows acceptance and, consequently, clarity to happen rapidly, often in minutes, without even having to relive the circumstances that created the upset.
So, you can choose. You can hold onto old animosities, anger, jealousies, hurt and upset, or you can address them and allow your world to open up. I have helped people, (myself included) with overwhelming negative emotions from the death of a child, relationship breakdown, to phobias, addictions and physical illness. My clients don’t even have to tell me the circumstances or emotion if they don’t want to. It is enough that they know. Having released it, they will tell me, often laughing at themselves for having believed whatever it was, or been so angry etc. Whatever the feelings are, the key for each individual is the acceptance of how he or she is feeling about something or someone.